My friend @murphmanfa sums up my feelings about 50 Shades of Grey PERFECTLY. I like my share of problematic things, but far too many women read these books and don’t KNOW they’re problematic, and believe that THAT is how bdsm works. It absolutely is not. Christian is abusive, manipulative, and is a downright bully. In a true dom/sub relationship, I would even go as far as to say that the sub is the one with the real power. They set the limits. A true dom will never bully you, never guilt you, never make you feel bad about saying no, and never ignore limits. You should never fear your dom. The amount of women who want a relationship like the one portrayed in the books frankly scares me. Absolute consent. Absolute limits. Absolute mutual respect. A dom who searches for a pushover is not a dom at all, but instead someone who gets off on abusing women and pretends it’s under the guise of kink. Do not trust any dom who enjoys 50 Shades of Grey. If you enjoy this series as a bit of throwaway reading, that’s cool, we all have our guilty pleasures. But do NOT ignore the problematic elements. Hope this helps. (I enjoy bdsm and kink in general so I feel I have some authority to say these things.)
This is fucking ridiculous. I am honestly 100% sick of women associating bdsm/rough sex/anything kinky as abuse or misogyny. Get over it. Fuck.
I am very confused about the above response. Did you read what randomlancila wrote, or..? She wasn’t condemning BDSM or kink, she was saying that 50 Shades of Grey does not depict a healthy BDSM relationship and should not be promoted as such. She even said she actually enjoys BDSM and kink in general. If you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey and don’t think it’s abusive, your definition of BDSM is severely skewed. If you haven’t read it, maybe having an opinion on it is not your place.
what do you MEAN it’s inappropriate for gold digger by kanye west to be my wedding song
Kanye himself probably said this